This question has become a touchy subject today with many men beginning to grow their hair; on both their head and face. Hope this settles the sensitive subject.
Q: We're going to have a very formal wedding at a country club, and my older brother, who's a groomsman, has grown a long, raggedy beard. I want him to trim it, but he says I"m being a control freak. Can I tell him to either shape up or ship out of the wedding party?
A: That depends. What means more to you: how your wedding party looks, or your relationship with your brother? (Hint: Go for the latter.) Back off until the wedding day. Then ask Mom to "encourage" him to run a comb through his beard before he walks down the aisle.